"You" are not what you think. Self is imagined. Distinguishing between 'S'elf (big S self, as my university professor used to call it) and 's'elf may be helpful to see the error of 's'elf, but both retain the 'taste' of alienation and being-from-it's-own-side, which miss the mark. If you distinguish between self and others (whether people or things) you are lost in a fantasy world created by, and supporting self. Like an addict with his drug, so long as the addict lives in the world of the drug, he remains lost in a 'haze' of unreality. There's only one way out of self, and that is to stop supporting the way of self. It's this way, the 'Narrow' way, by which 'no-self' is found: Matthew 7.13 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate (the path of self) and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 7.14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life...
"How wonderful, how wonderful, all things are perfect as they are." Buddha